In Your Face


Sometimes being kind doesn’t seem to work and when this happens it can be confusing and hurtful. I recall such a time… Driving on a main arterial route in Hamilton I noticed ahead of me a man pushing his car. I pulled my car over to the side of the road and ran over to help. Placing my hands on the boot I pushed too. The car was on a slight uphill incline, so my help was surely going to make a difference. 

You know that sense you have when something isn’t quite right with the world. Well, unexpectedly he curtly said “Get your hands off my car!” Startled, I  replied. “Excuse me?” Making sure I heard correctly he said in a more forceful voice. “I told you once. I don’t want your help. Go away!” 

I backed away, bewildered. I couldn’t understand why he wanted to push his car by himself. I just wanted to do the right thing. To help him.


POINTS to PONDER

Sometimes our desire to help isn’t wanted or appreciated. Get over yourself if this happens. 

We do not know what the person we are trying to help has been through and we don’t know or need to know their journey through life.

Try not to be put off helping in similar situations and never expect that you will be thanked or rewarded. Do it anyway.


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  1. PatMay 16, 2024 at 5:21 PM

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  2. Anaru BJanuary 23, 2025 at 7:34 AM

    So true Steve, I always try to ask people if they need help because yes like your example some people just don’t want help and aren’t ready to let others in. Ka pai my bro 😎

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  3. Alicia MFebruary 6, 2025 at 1:32 PM

    Such a powerful story, Steve! It really made me reflect on how sometimes our good intentions aren’t received as we hope. It’s a reminder that we can’t always control others' responses, but we should keep trying to do good anyway. The world needs more kindness, and your example is a great reminder not to take it personally when it isn’t appreciated. Thanks for sharing this heartfelt lesson!

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